I also, came across the book, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man." -Steve Harvey
First off, let me say that women aren't that complicated. Men say we are but we really aren't!
Now I will say, that I am a difficult person, but complicated...no. I'm pretty easy to get along with, but I do expect to be treated like a lady. I want and require: my car door opened, dinner dates, lazy love days, a text that says " I was just thinking about you", to wrap your arms around me and make me feel safe, someone to hold my hand in public, someone to never make me doubt them or say things to make me question their fidelity, my chair pulled for me at the table, someone who respects me enough to turn his phone off at dinner, someone who grabs my hand and pulls me on the couch before I have a chance to sit, and when you see me for the first time in a few days....please grab me and tell me how much u missed me, and kiss me.
These things are what every female wants....to feel like they are loved, a priority, and important in your life. I never want to be someones "whole world", but I do want to be a big part.
I mean, seriously, I'm a very independent woman. I don't need for anything. If I want something...I buy it for myself.
According to the Merriam-Webster Dictionary - Definition of Respect
- a relation or reference to a particular thing or situation <remarks having respect to an earlier plan
- : an act of giving particular attention : consideration
- a: high or special regard : esteem
Have only love and respect for your woman. If you love her...you will never want to hurt her. You are not worth her tears.
So here are some quotes from the book, "Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man." I think these are brilliant for men and women. Read this book folks, its enlightening!! I never want to think like a man....I would rather be a woman anyday.
- “Women want their love to be reciprocated in the same way they give it; they want their romantic lives to be as rewarding as they make them for their potential mates; they want the emotions that they turn on full blast to be met with the same intensity; and they expect the premium they put on commitment to be equally adhered to, valued, and respected.”
- "[A] man's love isn't like a woman's love. ... I'm not saying that we're not capable of loving. I'm just saying that our love is different—much more simple, direct, and probably a little harder to come by."
Steve says that men show their love through three Ps: Profess, Provide, and Protect.Profess: "If your man loves you, he's willing to tell anybody and everybody, 'Look, man, this is my woman' or 'this is my girl,' 'my baby's mama,' or 'my lady.' In other words, you will have a title—an official one that far extends beyond 'this is my friend,' or 'this is (insert your name here).' That's because a man who has placed you in the most special part of his heart—the man who truly has feelings for you—will give you a title."Provide:"Once we've claimed you, and you've returned the honor, we're going to start bringing home the bacon. Simply put, a man who loves you will bring that money home to make sure that you and the kids have what you all need. That is our role—our purpose. ... That is the very core of our manhood—to be the provider."Protect: "When a man truly loves you, anybody who says, does, suggests, or even thinks about doing something offensive to you stands the risk of being obliterated. Your man will destroy anything and everything in his path to make sure that whoever disrespected you pays for it."
- A man fishes for two reasons: he's either sport fishing or fishing to eat, which means he's either going to try to catch the biggest fish he can, take a picture of it, admire it with his buddies and toss it back to sea, or he's going to take that fish on home, scale it, fillet it, toss it in some cornmeal, fry it up, and put it on his plate. This, I think, is a great analogy for how men seek out women. Newsflash, it's not the guy who determines whether you're a sports fish or a keeper—it's you. (Don't hate the player, hate the game.) When a man approaches you, you're the one with total control over the situation. Every word you say, every move you make, every signal you give to a man will help him determine whether he should try to play you, be straight with you, or move on to the next woman to do a little more sport fishing.
- "From the male perspective, the answers to the question 'Why do men cheat?' are crystal clear. [W]omen will put up with a lot of things. Cheating is not one of them. Now, we men? We understand this. ... Still, we do it. Why? I am not here to justify a cheating man's actions. Rather, this is my humble attempt to explain to you why a man might go on ahead and get a little something on the side, and what you can do to cut down on the chances that your man will do this to you. So, let's just go on ahead and get right to it. Men cheat because ..."
They can.
"Dress it up any way you want to, but men don't view sex the way you women do, plain and simple. For a lot of you, the act of intercourse is emotional—an act of love. ... By contrast, when it comes to men and sex, neither emotions nor meaning necessarily enter the equation. It's easy—very easy—for a man to have sex, go home, wash it off with soap and water, and act like what he just did never happened.
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